What is ClubFEM?

ClubFEM is BDSM organization for Female dominants and submissive men. FEM is an acronym for "Females Enslaving Males". The term "club" does not refer to a place or location but an organization of people coming together based on their mutual interest of Female domination and male submission.

What sets ClubFEM apart from other fetish groups?

ClubFEM is exclusively a FEMALE DOMINANT/male submissive group. We do not accept dominant men and submissive Women as members. Although some of our members are switches, we do not allow switching of roles at ClubFEM parties and events. Women are in control at all times. Most other BDSM groups are pansexual, with the majority of members being male Dominants and female submissives.

ClubFEM is a relatively small group and members often become friends and do many things together outside the Club parties. An important advantage of ClubFEM membership is that you can learn more quickly about the roles of Mistress and slave due to ClubFEM's specific nature.

Is ClubFEM for couples only?

No. Although there are many couples who are members of ClubFEM, there are equal numbers of single Women and men.

What is the age range of ClubFEM members?

The median age of ClubFEM members is about 40. Our members range from age 23 to over 60. However, anyone requesting membership in ClubFEM must be at least 21 years old and this must be verified.

How do I join ClubFEM?

For the Baltimore chapter, Mistresses or slaves who are interested in membership begin by sending a letter of introduction, as described below, to clubfemmaryland@yahoo.com. Your letter of introduction will be reviewed by a ClubFEM Head Mistress or member of the ClubFEM Executive Board. When a favorable decision is reached, you will be asked to attend a ClubFEM Munch or to arrange an initial meeting with a Head Mistress or member of the Executive Board. All initial meetings take place in a public place such as a restaurant or coffee shop. Successful applicants will be invited to attend a monthly ClubFEM party.

* To be considered for membership an individual or couple must attend at least 2 ClubFEM parties.

* Decisions about membership are made by the ClubFEM Executive Committee.

Membership in ClubFEM provides an automatic invitation to all ClubFEM functions and an invitation to join the ClubFEM Yahoo chat group.

What should I write in my "letter of introduction"?

The key to a successful letter is brevity. BE CERTAIN to include your email address and your geographic location (city, state, and country, where applicable)when writing. Tell us briefly about your interest in ClubFEM and how you learned about us. We do not expect or want lengthy autobiographies from potential members, as we receive a large volume of email on a daily basis. DO NOT stress fetish or sexual subjects in this first letter and please refrain from sending us your fantasies.

What is a ClubFEM Munch?

A munch is an informal get-together for local members of ClubFEM. It is held in a public place such as a restaurant or coffee shop. Munches provide a safe, fun, social environment for newcomers to meet and socialize with members of ClubFEM in order to learn more about the club and meet others in the lifestyle.

Because these meetings are held in public places, please do not dress in fetish-wear or expect any BDSM play. We try to schedule monthly munches when we have new people applying for membership to the club. There is no entrance fee for a munch and you only pay for what you eat and/or drink. It is always a good idea to leave a generous tip.